The First 90 Days

Module 1 gives you the map. We walk you through the four legal terms you'll hear constantly, the eight professionals who may show up in your process, and how to find — and vet — the right attorney for your family. The fog clears. The work begins.

Module 2 helps you choose your path. We walk you through all five common divorce processes — litigation, settlement negotiation, mediation, kitchen table, and collaborative — what each one asks of you, what it costs, and who it's right for. The process you choose is a parenting decision. We help you make it like one.

Module 3 is your decision map. Every divorce comes with two big buckets of decisions — the money and the parenting plan — and we walk you through both, in the order you'll need to make them, with the questions that help you make them well. By the end, you'll move through the rest of this process with clarity instead of chaos.

Module 4 is what the research actually says. We walk you through how divorce affects kids at every age, the protective and risk factors that shape their outcomes, and the practices that show up in the parents whose kids do well. The headline: it's not the divorce that harms kids — it's how the divorce is handled. And that's the part you can do something about.

Module 5 turns knowing into doing. A child-centered divorce isn't a slogan — it's a specific set of choices that show up in your living room, your exchanges, and your hard conversations. We walk you through the four pillars and the daily practices that turn intention into behavior — every day, even when it's hard.

"Are you still going to love me?" That's the question underneath all the other ones — and it's what Module 6 is built around. We walk you through the divorce narrative, the follow-up conversations, and the best practices that keep your kids out of loyalty binds — and we give you words for the hardest questions. The words you choose become the story your kids carry into adulthood. We help you choose them well.

Module 7 names what most divorce conversations skip. The shifts that happen when a marriage ends aren't just about your status — they're about your sense of yourself. We walk you through the ten shifts that hit hardest, the feelings that come with them, and the fourteen things that quietly keep parents stuck. By the end, you'll have language for what you've been carrying — and you'll know what most parents never hear: the identity work you do right now is the work that changes the story your kids tell about their childhood.

Module 8 is the doing. We walk you through the two practices that actually get parents unstuck — grief and radical acceptance — and the tools that bring them to life: RAIN, the power of AND, the wise mind check, and focusing on what you can control. The line that anchors all of it: pain plus non-acceptance equals suffering, and acceptance doesn't make the pain disappear — it removes the second layer you've been adding by fighting reality.

Module 9 is the part most parents skip — and the part that quietly shapes everything else. You can't pour from an empty cup, and you cannot use your kids as the cup. We walk you through the three states of your nervous system, the regulation tools that actually work in the heat of the moment, and the boundaries that protect everyone — before you open the message, before you respond, before the exchange. By the end, you'll have a real plan for staying rested, regulated, and responsive — even when the season makes that hard.

Module 10 sets up what's next — the operating system for two-homes-one-team co-parenting. We walk you through the nine guideposts that change the game — who you're actually talking to, the impact of tone, BIFF, organization, response time, and what to do when a message comes in hot. By the end, you'll have a steady framework for every text, every email, every exchange — and the tools to send messages your kids would be proud to read as adults someday.