The adults who end up in our therapy offices in their 30s and 40s often aren't there because their parents got divorced. They're there because of how their parents handled their divorce and the years of co-parenting that followed.

Most parents who are going through divorce believe that the divorce itself is going to be the thing that damages their kids. So they white-knuckle the conflict, swallow what they can, and tell themselves that if they just get through it, the kids will be OK.

But Kate has spent years as a therapist watching how this actually plays out. Kids who grow up inside high-conflict divorces carry it. They carry it into their relationships. Into their own parenting. And into the way they handle (or avoid) conflict for the rest of their lives.

Hallie has watched the same story unfold from a different vantage point. As a psychologist, parent coordinator, and evaluator, she's spent years inside the legal process, watching parents enter the system without a clear understanding of their options, get pushed into rigid positional stances, and burn through years and tens of thousands of dollars in cases that could have looked very different if someone had told them sooner.

One of those cases has really stayed with her. It had dragged on far too long, drained the family financially and emotionally, and at the end of the process the mom turned to her and asked if a parent coordinator might have helped them. It would have. Significantly. Years earlier. But no one had ever told her that option existed.

That's when we met for lunch.

We were comparing notes from completely different ends of the same broken system, and we kept landing in the same place. The thing that hurts children in divorce, more often than not, is the way it gets handled and how parents co-parent in the years that follow. And most parents are flying blind. Limited information and options, and no one to remind them to stay focused on the most vulnerable persons in the process — the kids.

By the end of that conversation, we were asking a simple question: why isn't there a better way? One that reduces conflict, lowers costs, and actually supports families in putting their children first?

So we built one.

The Co-Parent Collective exists to do what the legal system was never built to do: support the people inside the divorce while it's happening. We give parents the early, child-centered information and resources we wish every family had on day one. The practical, developmentally-informed playbook for navigating this without losing yourself, your money, or the version of your family you'll have on the other side.