THE FIRST 90 DAYS
You don't need every answer today.
You need to know what comes next.
The First 90 Days is the ordered, child-centered plan for the first three months of separation — conversations, decisions, and daily life walked through step by step.
You’ve been asking yourself:
WE SEE YOU
→ Where do I even start?
→ Which decisions have to be made now, and which can wait?
→ How do I talk to my child before I have everything figured out?
→ How do I choose the right professionals that will protect the needs of my changing family- without knowing what I don’t know?
→ How do I stay steady enough to make choices I won’t regret and protect my child along the way?
This is the course that answers those questions in the order they come up.
THE DIFFERENCE
You don't have to solve the entire divorce this week.
You just have to know what comes first and a have a gameplan for keeping the process child-centered.
Your child may need a clear, reassuring explanation before you know every detail of the schedule. You may need to understand your process options before choosing your next professional. And you need room to steady yourself while making choices that will shape your family for years.
This course puts those pieces in the order they actually need to happen — so you stop making every decision at once, and start making the right one next.
Hallie Strauss, PsyD
Kate Alcamo, LCMFT
The playbook we wish every parent had at the beginning, not after.
WHO IS TEACHING THIS
Kate Alcamo, LCMFT, and Dr. Hallie Strauss, PsyD — a family therapist and a psychologist with 30 years of combined experience helping families navigate separation and divorce.
We've watched parents arrive in our offices with the same questions over and over, usually three months later than they wished they'd asked them. The First 90 Days is the roadmap we built so you don't have to wait that long.
WHAT YOU’LL GAIN - A PLAYBOOK
What changes isn't the divorce.
Its’ YOU.
RIGHT NOW
✓ Everything feels urgent and nothing feels decided.
✓ Afraid of saying the wrong thing to your child.
✓ Getting advice from everyone - trusting none of it.
✓ Running on fumes with no plan for what comes next.
✓ Trying to parent, work, and figure out a divorce in the same week.
AFTER THE FIRST 90 DAYS
✓ A clear map of what to do first, next, and later.
✓ Language ready for the hardest conversations with your kid.
✓ A short list of real professionals you'd want on your team.
✓ Tools for staying steady when the week falls apart.
✓ Confidence in making the choices that make the biggest difference.
Four things this course will help you do.
WHAT YOU'LL WORK THROUGH
Every module is organized around one of these four outcomes.
The Full Curriculum • 10 Modules • 18 Resources
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Understand the key divorce terms and professionals you may encounter and who does what.
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Learn the different paths to divorce and how each can shape the experience for your family.
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Get clear on the major decisions ahead and what to consider as you make them.
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Understand what research tells us about how divorce affects kids and what helps protect them.
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Learn what it actually means to make your child’s needs central without putting them in the middle.
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Understand the fears and questions children may carry during divorce and how to help them feel secure.
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Recognize the less obvious changes divorce creates for parents and how to adjust while staying child-centered.
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A practical guide to the internal shifts co-parenting requires — what to let go of, what to pick up, and how to move from partner-thinking to parent-thinking without losing yourself in the process.
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Learn practical ways to help you adjust to the emotional and everyday changes that come with divorce.
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Learn how to create consistency and security for your child across two homes, even when co-parenting isn’t easy.
↓ EXPAND TO SEE EVERY LESSON
The tools you'll actually use.
A LOOK INSIDE
RESOURCE • MODULE 01
Questions for every attorney consult — what to ask about process and fees, plus the answers that signal a good fit.
Questions for Your Attorney
RESOURCE • MODULE 06
A practical guide to validating your child’s feelings. What to say, what to avoid, and scripts for navigating tough moments without putting them in the middle.
Validation vs. Commiseration
A practical guide to co-parent communication. 9 guideposts to help you communicate more clearly, reduce conflict, and keep your kids at the center.
9 Guideposts
RESOURCE • MODULE 10
Here’s what it looks like in practice.
YOUR FIRST 90 DAYS WITH US
Most parent work through the course in roughly this rythm. But go at your own pace.
WEEKS 1-3
Orient yourself.
Start by understanding the landscape — who the professionals are, what your options are, and which decisions actually need to happen first.
→ Key Terms & Professionals
→ Process Options
→ Decisions To Be Made
WEEKS 4-6
Center your child.
Learn what children actually need in divorce — and the words, choices, and moments that put them at the center of this family change.
→ The Truth About Children & Divorce
→ A True Child Centered Divorce
→ Are You Still Going to Love Me?
WEEKS 9-12
Build the practice.
Move through the internal shifts, build your nervous-system capacity, and lay the foundation for a steady two-home life.
→ The Shifts No One Talks About
→ Making the Shifts
→ Rested, Regulated, Responsive
→ Two Homes, One Team
IS THIS FOR YOU?
This course is for you if you’re:
In the first weeks or months and unsure which decisions come first.
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Considering separation and wondering how to prepare for the conversation with your kids.
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Trying to create a more child-centered foundation — even if your co-parent isn't working through the course with you.
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Already past the early stages of divorce?
This may not be the right fit for where you are now.
Explore 1:1 coaching for support with a specific challenge or our Child -Centered Co-Parenting course.
What they said changed.
FROM PARENTS INSIDE THE WORK
“I finally knew what to focus on this week — and what could wait. That alone was worth it.”
— Parent • 2 months in
“I stopped drafting the same email three different ways. I had the words.”
— Parent • Enrolled early
“The decision map alone saved me from making three choices I would've regretted.”
— Parent • Finished course
READY TO START
Everything you need, in one place.
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OPTIONAL ADD-ON
Add a 60-minute coaching session
Apply the material to your family's specific situation. Schedule any time in your first 90 days.
+ $300
Questions Parents Ask
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For where you are right now — yes. Start Here isn't the whole roadmap. It's the mindset that lets the roadmap work. Most parents tell us the shift in Module 2 alone was worth the price of the course. When you're ready to go deeper, The First 90 Days picks up where this leaves off.
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You are exactly who this course is for. Most parents come to us mid-divorce — sometimes months in — and realize they want a foundation they didn't get from anyone else. It's never too late to make the shift. The tools work whether you're on day one or day three hundred.
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No. This course is designed for you — the parent who is doing the work of showing up. If your co-parent chooses to join you eventually, that's a gift. If they don't, the tools still work. Most of what changes for kids starts with one parent making the shift.
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Forever. Once you enroll, the course is yours — including any updates we make. Come back to it in six months. Come back to it in six years. The truth doesn't change.
WHAT COMES AFTER THE FIRST 90 DAYS
Child-Centered Co-Parenting
Once the early decisions are made, the daily practice begins. Our next course walks you through life across two homes — communication, transitions, boundaries, and keeping kids out of the middle.
Child- centered guidance, straight to your inbox.
Practical tools, expert insight, and support for navigating divorce and co-parenting with your kids at the center.