A Free Guide for Divorcing Parents
Before You Hit Send.
The exact 4-question checklist to run every message through. Before you make it worse.
You just got the message. Your stomach drops. Your fingers are already moving.
You know how this goes…
If you respond right now, you’ll say something you’ll regret. If you don’t, you feel like you’re letting them win. If you soften it, they’ll take advantage. If you push back, they’ll use it. Whatever you send in the next five minutes will shape the next five weeks.
Here is what we want you to hear before anything else.
You are not going to change your co-parent. Not with logic. Not with evidence. Not with the perfectly worded email you've been drafting in your head for three days.
But you can change what you send. And in a high-conflict dynamic, that changes everything.
We built the guide to walk you through exactly how.
The framework, the four-letter rule, and three real-world before / afters you can copy tomorrow.
Inside the Guide + Podcast
Everything you need to draft the next hard message — without making it worse.
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The one rule that changes every message you send.
The 4-question checklist to run every message through before you hit send.
The 4-letter rule that gives high-conflict co-parents ammunition every time.
Real world scenarios with word-for-word communication examples.
The 24-hour rule and the gut check that changes every message.
Who We Are
We are moms, therapists, and divorce experts on a mission to help families keep children in the center, not in the middle of divorce.
Two moms. Two divorce professionals. One mission.
We're Kate Alcamo and Dr. Hallie Strauss, co-founders of The Co-Parent Collective.
Kate is a child and adolescent therapist who has spent years watching how adults still carry their parents' divorce decades later.
Hallie is a licensed psychologist, parent coordinator, and evaluator who has spent her career inside the legal process — watching families enter the system without a roadmap.
We come at this from completely different ends of the same broken system, and we kept landing in the same place.
Most parents are flying blind, and their kids are paying for it.
So we built the resource we wish every family had on day one. This guide is where it starts.
Grab the Guide
Free. Two pages. Screenshot-ready. For the parent who needs a better way to do this.